Sneaky Sex (/ "Are Men Pigs?")
Friend of mine has been progressively getting more naked with a dude each time they meet, but apparently had already expressly discussed the fact that she was not ready to actually Do The Deed. This was duly agreed upon by both parties, and then the dude tried to, shall we say, slip it past her. If this were a sitcom, the next line would be "hilarity ensued", but in real-life this led to a flaming blowout of a temper-match, with dude proclaiming it was an easy mistake for a guy to make, and further, she shouldn't be so juvenile. Now, I think dude is a piece of shit, but I'm throwing this out there as a question for the ages: is this kind of behavior NORmal in the dating realm? Seems to me it's a fine line between that and date rape, but a male friend of ours assures us this is actually a predictable turn of events, being that they were already rolling around in the altogether.
posted by Anonyme. @ 2:50 PM
11 Comments:
I am approaching the conclusion that I am vastly naive.
I've been in a relationship that initially had a 'forbidden zone' shall we say. We did lots of rolling around naked and naturally man's bits stick out and tend to prod. Accidents happen. It's very difficult when you're in that position where you are being 'sexual' together and you yearn for them. A simple mistake. Don't be so harsh on the guy. And yes you are all crazy bitches!!!
Tell the hussy to keep her F'ing clothes on, or go fishing without baiting the hook.
what is outstanding about this post is not only the content, but also your use of the parenthetical- i have never seen a slash at the beiginning of a ( ). love it. vonnegutesque.
I really think more chicks need to take responsibility for their actions. Why arose him (and especially yourself) for nothing? I don't get it at all.
I cannot understand women's inability to understand men.
It's very simple: ACT like you want to have sex, we will think you want to have sex. "Ok, so I got in my car? And I put the key in? And I turned the ignition, put the car in DRIVE and slammed on the gas? And suddenly the car is zooming forward! I mean, WTF?!?"
Now, it's not true that men "simply cannot help themselves." We are not pigs, any more than women are desperate money-zombies. Right?
But as I've said before, when you're allll ready to do the deed and you have ten billion years' worth of ancestors all saying "DO IT DO IT DO IT!" it is nearly impossible to hear the voice of Duly Agreed Boundaries saying "We said we wouldn't, remember?"
How long has this rolling around been going on for? Because if it's been a while - I kind of understand his accident.
I think there's nothing wrong with a little escalation -- that way when you finally do the deed (and both parties agree), it will be incredible sex -- short-lived but fantastic. I think he's a sneaky, selfish bastard.
Get real. This woman needs to take responsibility for her actions. Ben is exactly right -- if you take your clothes off and are going at it with a man, he will absolutely think you want to have sex, and he will be blameless. Chicks who take their clothes off and mess around but say they don't want to go all the way are just psycho control freaks. Or else they are seriously conflicted and shouldn't have taken their clothes off in the first place. They're the kind of women who get drunk, have consensual sex, then claim they were date raped because they feel guilty afterwards. The bottom line is, if you don't want to have sex with a guy, don't take your clothes off. Duh. Women used to understand this. But now, men are supposed to be superhuman mind-readers? She's passionately kissin and groping you with no clothes on, and you're supposed to understand this means STOP!?!? I guess the man is always wrong, eh?
well said kallicles...
Jeeez, societal norms are so twisted nowadays. What says sex more than getting naked together, kissing face and rolling around? No go zones? Doesn't sound platonic to me. This broad has to fess up that she wanted it, and has to grow up and either decide the guy is worth her time or not. Sounds like a maladjusted daddy didn't love me enough even though I was his princess pyscho bitch!!
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